TIME is our friend. . .

 

It's been a week since we lost our sweet Frankie.  I'd hoped by now I could have a post written that would share a lot about him. . . his habits, his likes, etc.  I mainly want to do that so I don't forget all of the specialness about him. . .the reasons why I loved him so.  However, as I jot down those notes on a piece of paper, well, I just get so sad and upset.  It's like I'm continuing to keep that wound open and not allowing it to heal by thinking about him so much.

 

 

We've pretty much always had pets and we've gone through the loss of those little babies, but I've never had one just die...well, cept for one that was an indoor/outdoor kitty and she was sadly hit by a car. . . but, honestly, I wasn't really attached to her.  The rest of them died of an illness. . .and after you've cared for a sick animal and watched them decline, you're almost relieved when their suffering has ended. . .and, yes, you still miss them deeply, but at least you're a little ready for what's coming.  We were just blindsided by finding him dead last week.

 

 

 

Little Twiggy is very sad, too.  Those two kitties spent a lot of time together over the past four years.  This week, she's not been her spunky little self. . .and has been curled up sleeping a lot more than she normally does.  She also keeps going over to the spot on the floor where I found Frankie . . .and she just sits there.

I know that our best friend right now is "time".  

A lady overheard me talking the other day about how upset I am over losing Frankie and she came up to me and told me how she volunteers at a "no kill shelter" for kitties and how I could get another cat there.  I know she was well intentioned, but that upset me.  I'm not ready to "replace" Frankie.  The hole in my heart for him is still huge and aching.  I'm sure that as "time" goes by, I'll heal and be able to think of him with a happy heart, but right now, just looking at his pictures and seeing his old sleeping "spots" around the house and his little toys and his sad little sister, Twiggy. . .well. . .like I said, it just takes time and the time is not right to bring another kitty into this house.

 

 

So, now I have set a record.   I've posted two sad Pink Saturdays in a row.  I apologize for that, however, I have to tell you guys that I so appreciated all of the wonderful comments you left on my post last week.  They all touched my heart. . and I am so grateful to you for that.  I know I have not visited you in return.  I hope you know it's just because of my sadness right now.

HOWEVER....one really "happy" thing that happened this week was visiting the NEW DUNKIN' DONUTS store that opened near us!

I LOVE DD and haven't enjoyed one for many years because they closed all of their stores in our area a long time ago.

Don't you LOVE their PINK sign?

 

 

My jaw was on the floor and I was drooling like a fool when I got a gander at their racks and racks of awesome donuts!!!

 

I bought two of them.  A cream filled, chocolate frosted long john. . .which I ate before I got out of the parking lot and. . ..

 

an apple fritter!!!  I liked the long john the best, but I also relished every nibble of the fritter!!!

THE STONE RABBIT was a tad upset with me that I didn't bring him a treat!!!  That was really shameful of me not to think about him!!!  I told him I'd check and see if they have carrot donuts on my next visit.  He told me if they don't, he'd like to try one of their pumpkin donuts.

And there will be a next time. . .very, very soon!!

 

 

 

 

Thanks again to our wonderful hostess, Beverly of HOW SWEET THE SOUND.

 

She always has the best group of bloggers ready to share their weekly Pinks with you!!

 

Happy Pink Saturday.

 

DANA

Comments

[Nancy]

You will never forget how special your Frankie was. I think you're right about the unexpectedness of it making it harder. Poor little Twiggy - you know he's missing him terribly but I'm so glad that you do have Twiggy who is the luckiest little kitty in the world. There's no replacing Franke...ever. I know however that at some point there's another kitty meant to be yours. xoxoxo Nancy

[Linda @ A La Carte]

Time is your friend and a great healer! I'm glad you enjoyed the donuts, they look yummy! Sending you a big hug!! Linda

[Emily]

I'm so sorry for your loss. We've been through it here and recently with our son and one of his Yellow Labs. Even the animals go through loosing their companions. Thinking of you…………..
Happy Pink Saturday.

~Emily
The French Hutch

[Marydon]

Your little one will forever have a special place in your heart ... you can never replace but can bring forth great joy with another sweetie that needs your love. So sorry of your loss.

Have a lovely weekend ~

GIVEAWAY ends 9/9

TTFN ~ Marydon

[jeanne, backyard neighbor]

Hi Dana, Little Frankie was so cute. He was hiding when I was visiting you. I think it is a good thing to tell us more about the kitty you loved. I did that when Babette passed away. Time is the only healer at a time like this. I totally understand why you are not ready for another kitty. We waited a year after Babette was gone before we could really say we were ready for a new pet. Poor Twiggy, she misses Frankie. She needs time too. You are in my thoughts so much these days my dear friend. My prayers are for happier times and healing too. I wish I could just come over and cheer you up.

That is quite a sign for your new Dunkin' Donut shop. My what a wonderful selection. The apple fritter would be my fave. I love their coffee so much. It is truly delicious. The Stone Rabbit has every reason to want a donut too. HA! The whole world would want a Dunkin' Donut.

Wishing you and yours happier days.
Love, Jeanne

[Gabriela]

HPS!

Well...this rabbit does not exactly look like a donut eater...he, he, he! I do know that bite is not his...:o)

Gabriela

[Susie Jefferson]

You can't beat a great donut. I love the ones with custard or toffee fillings... none too good for the hips.

RE your cat, so sad. Pets really do leave a great hole in the heart, so I'm glad you have some more kitties to help comfort you. Happy PS!

[Ann]

I love donuts but rarely eat them. When I do induldge I love the carmel iced ones. have a great weekend.
Ann

[Sarah]

So sad to hear of your loss. I'm glad you have Little Twiggy to help console you.
I used to stop in to a DD when we lived in NY. ;-) I do love their pink sign!

[pat H]

Dana, it was clear that Frankie, was cherished and had a wonderful life, but it is always sad to lose a dear friend...hugs Pat

don't you just lovr DD we have a new one on 103rd yum!!!

[Brenda]

I always enjoy looking at your wonderful blog and wanted to tell you how sorry I am about your kitty. Being an animal lover myself, I know it hurts terribly.
May all the sweet memories of happier times help you....I have a kitty who looks a lot like your Frankie, so this really touched my heart.
God bless
BB from Ga.

[Laura Quaglia]

It is so hard to lose a friend.
Hope you can find piece.
Happy PS.

[LaVoice]

We have had pets, but never again. Too much grief and sadness. Thime is the best cure for a lot of things.

[wendy]

You are so correct about TIME having to take its course in the loss of your cat. There really is no other healing. My DIL and son had to put down one of their dogs this week and it broke their heart too. Those are Just Hard things to do. Ya know....I thought of your statment about "keeping the wound open" if you keep thinking about him.
I lost a son almost 2 years ago....and FOR ME, I do not want the wound to heal, not really. I want it to be ever present so I'll always remember how dear he was to me. Maybe just control the bleeding a litte....but not really heal.
Just my thought.

Ah, I know you are missing your Frankie. He held a special place in your heart, and I know he always will.

We have Dunkin Donuts here, but I confess to not being much of a donut fan.

Happy Pink Saturday, dear Dana. Thank you for making Pink Saturdays special. I appreciate your friendship and support.♥

[Sally]

I understand how awful the loss of a special pet can be. Our last pet was a miniature dachshund, and he was close to perfect. The idea that all we need do is get another one . . . is almost cruel. No two are alike; they cannot be replaced.

I agree; time is our friend, but truthfully, it's been four years since we lost our little guy, and we still hurt. We've decided that he was our last pet. With my bad balance, I'm afraid that I'd stumble over one.

So, Johnny and I enjoy the memories. You will too.

Now, about DD . . . I wrote about that here:
http://smilingsally.blogspot.com/2009/08/pink-saturday-newly-remodeled.html

[Jillian]

OH Dana, I feel bad that you're still sad, but I'm not surprised! I would be upset still as well. I am really attached to my kitties and one I've had for 16 years. The other my dear hubby was about to take to the shelter due to some territory issues and I was bawling like a baby to get her back. (I won that battle finally!) Anyway, my point is, I completely understand and yes, time does heal the wound. Take all the time you need. There is no point in rushing your mourning period. You just have to get through it and when you are ready, you'll know! In the meantime, the pinkies are here for ya!

You are also making me want to go get a icing filled chocolate donut in the morning! :0)

Take care.

Jillian

PS... Hop on over to my blog...hopefully our wedding pics (step daughter) will cheer you up.